The first step in healing the injury of loss is to make room for grief + listen to what it has to say.

To give it space. A seat at the table. Our full attention.

Because grief is the healing energy that rises up in response to loss.

But there’s often lots of pressure to minimize our grief.

Because we live in a world where we’re often asked to justify our pain.

To explain its realness + validity.

To convince others that it’s real beyond a reasonable doubt.

Because so many of the systems + structures we live in can’t handle the simple thing of us saying: this is what happened to me + it hurts.

So when folks come to work with me, this is often the first step:

Claiming the bigness + realness + power of the loss, the pain, and the grief as a matter of fact.

Interrupting the stories that tell us we’re not allowed to truly feel our grief because what happened to us “wasn’t that bad” or because “we should be over it by now.”

And exploring what it might mean to give ourselves full permission to simply feel what’s alive inside of us in any given moment.

Because when we deny, minimize, or villainize grief, we’re interrupting its deep, holy, and important work.

We’re pushing away the healing, life-force energy that’s showing up to help.

So however the grief is showing up for you today, I invite you to give it space and notice what happens + moves + awakens when you do.