I used to roll my eyes at the idea of self-love.

I mean, it *sounded* like a good thing that I should probably be working on + doing more of.

But it felt a little shallow + simplistic to say: 

You just need to love yourself more!

Okay sure, but…

  • What does that even mean?

  • What about the fact that we live in a culture that so often encourages us to judge + push + be mean to ourselves?

  • What does it actually look like to love ourselves through hard feelings + painful moments + apocalyptic happenings in the world (+ so many other things that feel out of our control)?

But today I believe that self-love is EVERYTHING.

Here’s why:

Because we are here on this planet to fully embody our aliveness – to delight in our creative + erotic power, channel our energies in directions we choose, and enjoy our existence as alive creatures on planet earth.

And not loving ourselves makes this really hard.

Because when we’re judging ourselves, saying mean things to ourselves, only letting ourselves rest when we’ve earned it, measuring our worthiness in terms of our usefulness to other people – we’re disconnected from our aliveness, the most sacred resource we have.

Because we’re pouring our life-force energy into external standards, others’ expectations, and systems of oppression we’ve internalized along the way.

And as I’ve put self-love at the center of my own journey, here’s what I’ve found:

That self-love is less an idyllic experience of bubble paths + positive affirmations + happy moments…

…and more a gritty process of fighting for the best parts of our aliveness + claiming our human rights + rooting ourselves in what matters most.

Which looks like:

  • Naming + questioning + gently unwinding the oppression alive inside of us (perfectionism, our SHOULD voice, our not-enough story, etc.)

  • Deciding (right now, ahead of time) to be on our own side, no matter what happens or how things turn out.

  • Allowing our feelings (all of them) to exist exactly as they are (without needing them to change, move, or make sense).

  • Celebrating ourselves for our tiny wins + major accomplishments + courage to fail + willingness to be in our human experience, even when that’s hard. 

  • Choosing to say kind things to ourselves when we make a mistake or fail hard or feel lost – because we’re ALWAYS worthy of that kind of care.

  • Resting (even when that feels terrible because we’re detoxing from the pressures of productivity).

  • Taking our dreams + desires seriously – and stepping forward to create + ask for + let ourselves have what we want.

So let’s explore + create + cultivate this self-love together.

On Monday, February 21st at noon central, I’m offering a 90-minute class on cultivating the kind of grounded + gritty self-love that supports us in living lives of truth + meaning + liberation + full aliveness.  

I’ll teach you how to…

…crack holes in perfectionism,

…disarm your should voice,

…work with (rather than against) yourself,

…cultivate the kind of commitment to this work that keeps us in the game,

…and create the safety needed to support these shifts.

I’ll also leave plenty of time for coaching, which means that you’ll have the opportunity to get support with your specific situation.

This class costs $7 + you can register below:  

(Signing up will add you to my mailing list + you’ll also receive a recording of the class after the live event.)

So excited to be together soon!