Sometimes healing looks like a series of cathartic breakthroughs + sexy epiphanies -- and sometimes, it looks like spinning in circles, getting nowhere, and loving ourselves anyway.

Both are important. Both represent progress.

I experience both in my own healing, growing work -- and in my work with clients too.

But when we’re in a river of struggle, spinning our wheels -- it can feel like something has gone horribly wrong (because we're doing it all wrong).

But when we can meet ourselves in moments like these -- when we can feel our frustration + activation + freak-out -- and take the one right next tiny step toward presence + care, we unleash a deep + powerful magic.

We show ourselves that we don’t need the world around us or within us to be a certain way to stop everything, be with what's real, make a grounded choice, and take loving action.

So when your progress looks + feels like miraculous leaps forward, congratulations! That’s really fun.

And when your progress looks + feels like loving yourself through a hard moment + choosing to be on your own side when you feel like nothing is working, congratulations! That’s power + magic in action.

So in these moments of frustration + stuckness, my practice is to pause, breathe, and ask myself: what’s my one right step toward groundedness, care, or grace?

This tiny practice has opened lots of space through the hardest moments, illuminating the power I have, we all have, to love ourselves through the tough stuff.

How might it feel to try it on for yourself?