When I was doing domestic violence advocacy work, I was always encouraged + a bit relieved when my clients got angry.
Because anger is a good sign.
It’s the closest thing to hope.
(Whereas something like apathy is further away.)
And I still feel this way when I work with clients in my grief work.
Because when we’re angry, we’re both aware of + connected to what we know is right -- to the beautiful visions of goodness + possibility we’re meant to experience in this lifetime.
Still, I’ve found that lots of folks are afraid of their anger and see it as a violent + destructive force.
But in my experience, anger that we honor + allow to exist + feel in our bodies + make room for, is ultimately more a creative force than a destructive one.
It might call for destruction of the old thing or some dimension of our current reality -- but only to build a new + more congruent one.
In other words, there’s a clarity + vitality to anger.
It’s an energy we can use.
It’s the energy that shows us to help us stay alive inside situations + systems that hurt + harm us (like ableism, sexism, racism, capitalism, etc.) in an I’m-determined-flourish-and-outlive-my-enemies kind of way.
It’s the power we possess to fight for ourselves, the lives we want, the flourishing that we *know* belongs to us.
So what if your anger is here to help you heal, come all the way alive, and claim the goodness that is your birthright? And how might you make room for this catalytic + powerful energy, allowing it do its transformative work on your behalf?