More + more, I’m measuring success not in terms of the wins I collect,

but by how I show up for myself in the hard moments:

...the permission I give myself to feel afraid + unsure + disappointed,

...the care I extend to my body + my heart, even when I feel like I haven’t done enough to earn it,

...the rest I allow, even when I think I “should” be doing something more productive,

...the space I give myself to be a human with real needs + feelings + desires -- not the robot that capitalism expects me to be,

Because this is what matters most.

This is what deepens + expands my life in the ways I want:

The simple decisions that I make again + again in all sorts of ordinary + difficult + unsexy ways to be kind to myself no matter what.

To remember that the self-doubt, negative spirals, and long stretches of frustration are just part of the human experience + not evidence that I’m bad, failing, or doing it wrong.

So these are the questions I ask myself to check in about this (that you can use too).

Was I willing to feel the hard feelings today?

Did I have my own back when things got hard?

Was I kind to myself, especially through the hard moments?

Because it matters that we anchor ourselves in kindness,

show up for ourselves in the hard moments,

and remember that who we are right now is exactly who we need to be.