Clarity Through Self-Trust

{Coaching reflections, Part 2 of 5}

Coaching is about getting clear through self-trust.

We're conditioned to look outside ourselves for answers.  The dominant culture tells us clarity is found through rational analysis in which status, money, and external success are the primary values and metric points.

Coaching is a process of tuning into the slower rhythms and deeper energies of our being to reconnect with the knowing and wisdom that is available to us in that space.

It's about learning the language of our bodies and deepening our intuitive superpowers.

It's about reconnecting with a steady internal compass that helps us navigate the loud, fast, and flashy world around us and discern which of the voices (if any) competing for our attention are worthy of it.

My first step is always to get quiet and still and then know what I know in this moment.  

Because the more I welcome and allow the knowing that's already here, the more knowing opens up.  The more I listen to my body, the more it speaks and the more I understand. The more I add to my reservoirs of self-trust, the more I have to draw on when the next hard, uncertain things appears.

So what do you know in this moment?  What answers and truths are available to you in this moment through your body?

Knowing vs. Certainty

When I feel like I don’t know what to do next, there’s a good chance I’m confusing certainty with knowing.

Here’s the difference as I understand it:

Certainty wants a guaranteed outcome, promise of safety, clear view of the whole path, and list of step-by-step instruction, whereas knowing is the truth available now that takes me to the next right thing.

Knowing unfolds as we go.

This is often super frustrating to me. Because I even though I know (or can find a way to know) what’s true for me now and what the next right thing is, this often doesn’t feel like enough – at least to my anxious, small self who prefers certainty and would choose the guarantee every time.

But the path is unfolding and so are we, so the truth of our knowing is never a once-and-for-all conclusion we can hold ahead of time.

Instead, knowing comes with engaging life, walking the road, making wrong turns, and deepening into our embodied, intuitive wisdom.

This way of knowing reminds me that life is an adventure of trusting what I know in the moment and remembering that for now, this is enough – the rest will unfold when it’s time, and I can trust my own capacity to be with the uncertainty in the meantime.